Letting Go





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I am so excited to introduce to you my dear friend, Carrie O’ Toole. I met Carrie just over a year ago at a local She Shares coffee meetup. My first impression of this lovely lady was of her joy, later finding out her ministry is to lead others to greater joy in their life through discovering  patterns of poor relationships. And like every story of triumph, there lies behind it a story of grief, and Carrie knows this story very well.

We ended up being the last few at the coffee meetup, we just couldn’t break the powerful conversations we were having – and for great reason. Carrie shares my heart for equipping others to walk in freedom, and as her ministry  demonstrates, lead broken people to brilliance.

With Carrie’s book, Relinquished: When love means letting go, being released next month, and available for pre-order now, I could not wait to have her guest post on my blog and spread the good news of  her empowering message.




So many things have been written about Easter! We all have memories of Easter’s past.

Here’s a video retelling of Easter 2009 from my kitchen to yours:

I wrote my story three years ago, as therapy for my broken heart and exhausted spirit. After hearing, “Memoirs don’t sell” countless times, I put the book away and tried to write a self-help book. During this time, I wrestled with my confidence and thoughts of not wanting to write a book, just for the sake of writing a book. I could not ignore the burning in my soul about writing my story.

I believe God resurrected this book, because my story is powerful! I decided to sit down and write it again, the book practically birthed itself!

As time passed and my wounds healed, I realized my story isn’t just a memoir. It’s a MEMOIR with a MESSAGE. A message that needs to be heard by…

*foster, step, and adoptive parents – you will feel understood, heard, and find strength.

*those who have been adopted– you may relate to the feelings you’ve always struggled to understand.

*family and friends of foster, step, and adoptive families– they need you to understand what’s happening in their homes without judgment. They need support.

*counselors, doctors, teachers, pastors, judicial workers, social workers, and those in the system– please learn about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Please understand what happens at home is not what you see in public. Please give support to these parents, especially the moms. They are trying so hard, and can’t seem to figure this out. They are giving to the point of exhaustion, and they need help, not criticism.

*those who have or are currently struggling with infertility or miscarriage-you are not alone, and your grief is real.

*struggling parents-it’s such a tough job! Things don’t always go the way we hoped, but you will get through it.

Easter…the time of death and resurrection.

God has given me a new life. I hope my book will inspire many to continue even when it feels like life is over, even when you don’t think you can take one more breath. Keep going. God has a plan. It may not look like YOUR plan, but he has a plan. It will be good again. It will even be great!

You can pre-order Relinquished: When Love Means Letting Go here:

This post written by Colorado Life Coach, Carrie O’Toole, M.A.


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Communications major. Journalist. Willing: to have the tough conversations. Living out the belief that communication strengthens connection.

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